The Universe’s Gift - Why I Stopped Blaming Others

I’ve been mulling over where to start for ages, my head a total mess. Living in buzzing London doesn’t make it easy to tune into your gut – challenges hit you nonstop. I stood in front of myself and asked, “What value can I bring to others? What’s my message?” With so many coaches, artists, and Reiki practitioners out there, what can I create? For a long time, I just felt empty.

I’m a city girl who’s not afraid of life and loves a good challenge. Yet, I’m not as brave as I’d like to be. I’m stuck in a restaurant job. I enjoy it – I’m lucky to have a decent boss and build real connections at work. But it’s not my calling. I’m a free spirit, and I feel suffocated when things are forced on me. For a while now, something’s been simmering inside me, building up, and this past year? The pot boiled over. Everything that didn’t serve me either crashed or is still crumbling.

Yesterday, I walked out of a yoga studio. 43°C, a little heating glitch dropped it to 39°C for a bit. “Could be warmer,” I thought. In front of me was this guy who always pushes ahead, totally out of sync with his practice. He fidgets, can’t hold a pose, flops down, nearly lands on my mat. My head’s a storm: “God, he’s so annoying! He’s been coming forever and still doesn’t get that he’s in everyone’s way. Has no one told him? What an ignorant!” I wanted to yell at him to move back. Yoga’s a shared practice, right? It’s about being mindful of yourself and others. “Selfish…,” I fumed inside.

Hold up – why’s he getting under my skin so much? Why am I even here? To focus on me. This guy was like a gift from the universe – a distraction showing me where my attention’s going. For the first 30 minutes, I wasted my practice obsessing over his, tanking my own vibe. Who did I blame? Me? Nope! Him. Because he’s the clueless one. Someone should’ve told him to shift back and make it easier for the rest of us. Yeah, right! Isn’t that what we do in life, too? How often do we point fingers at others for our stumbles, flops, or failures? Think about it.

Halfway through class, something clicked. I told myself, “Anka, what are you doing? Why are you fixating on him? Focus on you!” I shut my eyes, tuned out the studio. My gaze met my soul and body – and bam, I found my balance again. My poses took me to new places, smashing through my mental and physical limits. I felt this “Wow!” moment. A new layer of me peeled open.

It hit me like a lightning bolt. In life, we picture everything going our way – that’s what keeps us riding the wave. But when the universe tosses a distraction or a pebble in our path, we trip because we’re too busy staring at it instead of ourselves. Then we blame them for our scraped knees. Thing is, we’re the ones choosing where to look.

Here’s the deal: life will always throw something in our way. That’s how the universe talks to us. Our job? Open our minds wide enough to leap over the old patterns and beliefs chaining us to someone else’s dream. The system, the people profiting off our ignorance, they sell us fear to stop us believing in ourselves. But it’s our perspective that decides the reality we build – for us and those around us.

I’m shedding those old scripts right now. It’s damn tough, but the payoff? A thousand times worth it. Yoga, affirmations, cleansing with Reiki energy – these are my tools to keep my vibe high and my mind clear. Active meditation helps me roll with the punches, which I like to call love letters from the universe. They’re chances, not roadblocks.

Reiki? It’s a game-changer for my self-awareness and how I see life through self-love. This universal energy has a knack for pulling out the best in me, washing away judgment and toxic thoughts that – let’s be real – hurt us the most in the end. With Reiki, I’m learning to look at myself and others with kindness, let go of what’s not mine, and zero in on what truly matters: my own path.

If you’re stuck in a headspace where negative thoughts are running the show and dragging your mood down, I’d love for you to try Reiki with me. It’s this ancient vibe that’s all about clearing out the junk – the energetic blocks in your mind and body that make you feel overwhelmed and lost. I’ve been there, drowning in my own chaos, and Reiki? It’s like a deep breath that pulls you back to yourself. It’s not just relaxation – it’s a door to healing, a way to reconnect with that quiet part of you that knows what you really want.

See, when you tune into that, you can finally focus on you – your dreams, your fire, what lights you up. It’s about building a life that feels like yours, not some script someone else handed you. I used to let those dark thoughts yank me around, but Reiki’s been shifting that. It’s helping me line up with my soul, where every choice I make feels real, tied to what I value, what I’m passionate about. Instead of being tossed by the storm in my head, I’m finding this steady positivity, this bounce-back strength, and a clearer sense of my own path.

It’s wild how it clears the fog – not just mentally, but emotionally, too. You start feeling like you’re setting up a life that’s yours, on your terms. That’s what I want for you, too.